So there we are enjoying our delicious and nutritious meal, when a lady comes up and starts shaking Ella's hand. Of course Ella is smiling at her and being her cute self. The lady says to me "Did you know Cathy McMorris?" I say yes, she is referring to Congresswoman Cathy McMorris-Rodgers who has a son Cole that has Down syndrome. The lady says "yeah, she had a Down syndrome. But HE is SUCH a doll!!!" I just stare at her speechless. Then she says something to Ella about having 2 teeth (which she really has 10 but whatever,) and walks away. As she walks out the door I say "yeah, she has 2 teeth just like you." The lady happened to be missing several teeth.
Okay, I'm sure she didn't hear me, though Chris was quick to point out that the door was still open. I am not usually an ugly person who spouts off mean things, but SERIOUSLY???? I was a little annoyed, okay a lot annoyed. First of all a mother does not have a Down syndrome, you have a CHILD who happens to have Down syndrome. People first language here people!!! Secondly, what is she implying??? That my Ella is not a doll, not the cutest thing on earth??? Perhaps I am biased but really Ella is a cutie and has the personality to go with the looks.
I don't know why I get annoyed by people's stupid comments. I am sure she meant nothing by it. I should have done the right thing and educated the lady right then, but I guess I still get shocked at what complete strangers will say to you. It's amazing to me. Really in the grand scheme of things it was not a particularly offensive comment, it just rubbed me the wrong way as so much does when in reference to Ella. I guess what bothers me is that Ella is singled out because of her Down syndrome. People always stopped and commented on Hunter when he was little, but it was because of his beautiful eyes or how well he speaks. And, there are many people out there that comment on how beautiful Ella is, but of course what stands out in my mind is always the DS stuff.
After the lady left McDonalds, my wonderfully hilarious friend Mary said that she always wishes she was quicker with her comebacks. She said that just once when someone mentioned something about Riley having Down syndrome she would like to pretend to be completely shocked and ask "WHAT??? He has Down syndrome?? How could the doctors have missed it all this time???" Boy, how funny would that be. Perhaps I will remember that next time someone says something stupid to me!!!