I go to pick her up at school and the special ed teacher says "Ella is having an um...off day." She wasn't answering questions correctly and needed a lot of supervision. (She has done great this whole school year, then yesterday I had to carry her out of the school screaming..) Then we run home and get ready for dance class, which she has been so excited about all week, even practicing her ballet moves. We talk on the way over there about listening to the teacher, staying with the other girls, etc....with her in agreement, "ok mommy!" "yes mommy, I will!" We get there and Ella goes into the class with all the other little girls, and about 2 minutes later the teacher comes out and asks me to come in the class and sit. Great. Well, Miss Ella was not behaving at all. Not at all. She is running around the room, not listening. I grab her and have a little pep talk about doing what the teacher says, and look at those girls all listening and having fun. "Ok mommy!" Only to be a little monster again. Finally I had had enough, I pick her up and we leave dance class 15 minutes early, she is screaming that she wants to stay. She gets so mad in the parking lot she rips her glasses off and throws them down on the ground. We get to the car and I start to buckle her in and low and behold she has peed through yet another diaper, one that has been on just 30 minutes. Sigh. My blood is boiling. I buckle her in to her car seat and tell her just how disappointed I am in her behavior. She says " I sorry mommy," and sticks her thumb in her mouth. We go home and I throw her in the shower, after all she has peed all over herself twice so far. I have had time to calm down. She knows I am angry. So I put on her jammies, even though it is only 1:45 in the afternoon, and she cuddles in my lap. It is really really hard to stay angry at a face like this....
I blame it on Down syndrome, it's just easier to blame that instead of Ella. Maybe that is wrong of me? The complete lack of reasoning with this child at times leaves me furious. Ella's dance class is made up of 6 girls. 5 of them are 3 years old and Ella is 5. They were all behaving, except for Ella. I know I should maybe cut her some slack, but I can't. I have big expectations for this little girl.
I try to think about how her meds could be effecting her. I know her little body is undergoing a lot of changes right now. My mother and I have this theory. For the past several months Ella had been doing awesome. Her behavior was better than ever. Her speech was phenomenal. She was growing like a weed. She was doing AWESOME in school, being a leader, participating in everything without being prompted. And then we found out she was hyperthyroid (Graves Disease,) so my mother and I were like "what if this kind of pepped Ella up?" No, surely this was all just a coincidence right? One of the symptoms of Graves are inability to pay attention and focus. In prior school years Ella has needed to be prompted to participate and was happy to watch her peers. She was more lethargic, needing 12 hours of sleep at night and then taking a nap for a couple of hours and having to be woken up from that. Now that her thyroid levels are normalizing some of those old behaviors are coming back. Just a thought. I know it isn't safe to remain hyperthyroid but wouldn't that be interesting if Ella does so much better when she is in that range??
Then there is the potty training stuff. UGH! We were having some issues which I discussed with the pediatrician at her well child check. Stuff like Ella would go pee in the potty and literally 5 to 10 minutes later she would be soaking we again. She never really initiates to go pee in the potty and yet she has been mostly poop trained since she was 3. Sometimes she really strains to go pee. Anyhow the pediatrician thought it would be a good idea for us to see the urologist. The urologist office called and told the pediatrician's office that we first needed to have an ultrasound done on Ella's kidneys and bladder. The results of that ultrasound say that Ella has a dilated left kidney and a "small bladder volume." It was interesting at the ultrasound because they took measurements of her bladder when it was full, then we had to go to the bathroom and Ella peed in the toilet, then we came back to measure her empty bladder, only her bladder had barely emptied at all. I thought that was interesting, may have something to do with her being 10 minutes after she has already gone? We couldn't get in to see the urologist until November 15th, so of course me being me have in the back of my head what if she can never be potty trained??
I just feel like for the past year my kid has been falling apart medically. First it was her eyes, needing glasses, and then surgery on both eyes, and now in bifocals. Then it was her ears, failing hearing tests (though thankfully that has all worked itself out.) Then there was the weird ankle thing where Ella wouldn't walk for a couple of days, followed closely by the leukemia scare (which thank God it turned out she did not have, but we never figured out her injury.) Now we are dealing with Graves Disease and some bathroom problem. I guess when my child was born with Ds and we went to a million doctors and slowly but surely things got checked out and cleared, I figured we were in the clear. I realize that things could be so much worse, I really do, but now I'm stuck in the mind set that if all this stuff is going on that we didn't really know about what's next??
Okay. Sorry that was a bummer of a post, but this is my place to vent. The truth is I love my girl and I am extremely proud of her, she is amazing and such an inspiration. But dammit she needs a break right now, and frankly so does my brain!